Preparing for marriage

Marriage is one of most important decisions of your life. The best advice I could give you is to date. You’re probably thinking well duh, but what is surprising is that people don’t date as much anymore. People aren’t looking for someone for the long term, only for a hook up here and there. Some people claim that they just haven’t found their type. They are waiting for Mr. or Mrs. right. Date lots of people so you really know what you are looking for. Even if you get asked out on a date by someone who isn’t “your type” still go out with them so you don’t get the reputation of the person that turns everyone down. Things that also make people not date as much is the lie that you have to know the person in order to date them. You go on dates to get to know them. That is the whole point of dating, to get to know the person and see if you should become more than friends. Another lie is that guys and girls can’t just be friends. Don’t you want to marry your best friend? Every successful couple that I know tell me that they married their best friend. We need to get rid of these lies. You don’t need to know the person to date them and guys and girls can just be friends. 

            When you were younger did you ever make a list of things that your certain someone should have? Cause I sure did! In a talk given by Elder Bednar to the students here at BYU-Idaho he talked about marriage and finding the right one. He said to become the person on your list. Become the person you want to marry because then you will attract the same person. The best way to prepare for married is to create the person you want in a wife or husband. 


            Here are some fun date ideas to get to know certain qualities of a person. To see who patient they are you could go to an escape room. They are put in a stressful situation and you can see if they have patience and let you figure things out or if they just take over and aren’t patient with you. Some other things people look for is if they are going to be a good patient. Take them to a place to see how they act around kids. Take them home to meet the family, see how they act around your siblings. Find things that show certain qualities at different times so you can really see if the person is right for you. 


            In a magazine called Meridian magazine in an article called Casual Dating is Alive and Well by JeaNette Smith says “Friendship dating, or what I refer to as “Casual Dating” in my book, Unsteady Dating:  Resisting the Rush to Romance appeals to more guys than you can imagine.  A case in point is a young lady I’ll call Sarah, who went to college and her first year in college she went on dates with sixteen different boys–real dates: planned, paid for, paired off… the works”. I really like this because we all make fun of old fashion dating but we all secretly want it. We all want the real dates, planned, paid for, paired off. I want those dates! Don’t be afraid to put your self out there. Make that important decision. If you are prepared it will be the easiest decision of your life!


Thanks for reading. See you in the next one, Bye!