Transitions in Marriage

What do you think about when you hear the word engagement? Super romantic gesture, the man gets down on one knee with a photographer to capture the perfect moment. That’s what I think about too, but it doesn’t need to be like that. Most of the time if it’s a big engagement the marriage doesn’t work. The guy will plan this big thing with lots of people watching and she will feel forced to say yes. Engagement is a sacred. It is when you are preparing to make and keep sacred covenants.

The main thing that happens during the engagement is the wedding planning. The average amount of money that people spend on their weddings is around $30,000. Now where do they get the money? Parents? Savings? The bank? Yes, yes and yes. Usually it is the parents of the bride that does most of the paying, cause it’s their little girls’ big day and everything has to be perfect. Now that means that the mother of the bride will have a say in everything that happens at the wedding. The mother and the bride will spend a lot of time together planning. Creating this space between the bride and groom. Starting off apart isn’t going to work very well. President Russell M. Nelson says “Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concentrated effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed in each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness." Planning the wedding together as a couple is a great way to see if it is actually going to work out between the two of you. Imperfect people working together to become perfect. Learning early how to work together is key. 

Now you are happily married. Now you live together. The transitions that take place are who is doing certain responsibilities. Responsibilities like cooking food, who does what chores. Another factor is sharing space. Having to just things that might be normal for you but may not be for your spouse. Things that you may also consider is the introduction of children.  Things like this need to be discussed and you need to be open about with each other. Or the smallest thing like which side of the bed do you want to sleep on can cause a strain on the marriage. You are building a life together and building a family. You need to be able to discuss the little things before the big things come around.  Don’t let the transition of marriage put a strain on the marriage. 

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